It is a process.
We marry as two people who fit at a particular moment in time.
But neither of us stays that person.
Life changes us.
Age, children, work, health, loss, success.
Sometimes our energies are beautifully synchronized.
Sometimes they aren't.
If I had met Melvin when I was twenty and he was thirty-five, there is no way on earth I would have married him.
The people we were then would not have worked.
When we met years later, something had aligned.
We had changed.
Compatibility isn't set in stone.
It's more like an ocean.
It moves with the ebb and flow of the tides.
Sometimes two people move together.
Sometimes the tide pulls them in different directions.
And sometimes the tide turns and brings them back towards each other.
A difficult season is not necessarily the permanent shape of your marriage.
Marriage is fluid, not rigid.
It may simply be the shape it has taken for now.