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The Shape of a Marriage
Not a contract, not a fairy tale — something stranger and more durable.
November 2023 · 7 min read
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A long marriage is not a single shape. It is a sequence of shapes, each one tried, outgrown, gently set aside.
long marriage is not a single shape. It is a sequence of shapes, each one tried, outgrown, gently set aside.
What endures is not the form but the willingness to keep shaping. Two people, each becoming, each accommodating the becoming of the other.
I have stopped looking for a definition. I look, instead, for the quality of attention two people bring to one another across an ordinary Tuesday.
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