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The Quiet Work of Becoming
On the slow, unspectacular labour of arriving at oneself.
March 2024 · 6 min read
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There is a particular kind of becoming that no one writes brochures about — the kind
that happens between Tuesdays, in the unremarkable hours when no one is watching and nothing is being decided.
here is a particular kind of becoming that no one writes brochures about — the kind
that happens between Tuesdays, in the unremarkable hours when no one is watching and nothing is being decided.
I used to mistake it for stalling. The years I now think of as most formative were, at the time, the years I considered most wasted. I was not building a career. I was not, by any visible measure, getting anywhere.
But something was being arranged. Some interior furniture was being moved into its proper room. I only noticed in retrospect, the way one notices a tide has come in by finding the boat afloat.
This piece is a companion to Becoming me
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